2019 in a summary

This is how I summarize my 2019

 

My little girls (Miyelane and Wisane) I would need 1000 pages to summarize how you have been the best that has ever happened in my life, you guys are the best. No competition or auditions will replace you.the number one spot will always be yours.

 

My little girl Andziso You have brought happiness to my life, you the reason I have hung in there no matter how this world has knocked me down

 

Peace Dube… I don’t know what I did to deserve you but hey God and Ancestors knows that you are the best friend 

 

Ausi Christina Mofokeng thanks for being a Mother a Sister and a Friend

 

My younger brothers (Nkhulu and Isaiah) Am grateful and happy that the two of you exist in my life

 

Work colleagues (Makro silverlakes) thanks for making me laugh, for it has healed the broken parts of me

 

Mmane Portia despite the surname change note that you will always be Mmane Portia to me

 

Rakgadi Maria the love I have for you is a lot

 

This year was a roller coaster. To those I have offended please accept my apology

 

As Mokokoma Mokhonoana would say or should i say as He once written “when days are dark friends are still many, it is just that many of them are also having dark days” (with that said I don’t hold any grudges)

 

2020 I don’t know what you have In stores for me but please be gentle

Dedication to the special men in my life

1.My God for giving me this life and all that’s in it,the good,the bad,the misunderstandings,the path He has led me to and all that he has ever done for me

2.My Dad…Well I Am because this Man is. Apart from the darkness we currently in now I am grateful for the light we once shared

3.My Younger Brothers Nkhulu Isaia and Wellem,must say they can be headaches sometimes but hey they have made me  a strong woman who held the knife by its blade and stayed stronger even when I was bleeding in pain, I love them a lot more

4.My Friends Joe Tshepo Sakkie Sekete and Thato they always managed to make me laugh out loud and Noko thanx for those once in a while calls to check up on me they are much appreciated

5.My Partner In Creating Miye (my daughter) Danny, If only i knew the reason for falling pregnant at 17 was a preparation to becoming a mother of 3 boys and 2 little girls, I wouldn’t be asking how my life would’ve turned if I didn’t fall pregnant,when I can finally understand that everything happens for a reason. Thanx for the special gift.

6.My Uncles from  My Mom’s Family side Sam Dick John Jim Peter… It wasn’t easy, when one of you wanted to give up one would remind another why we had held on so long and tight. I pray that you don’t give up on me just yet

7.My Uncles From My Dad’s Family side Stanley George…through them I have learned that at some point one has to swallow their pride and stand tall,

8.My Ex’s. All the moment that we once shared  the heart breaking,crying myself to sleep,hope u have given me, believing that we could have a future together and all that, just like a school kid who had to start from grade one up until the last grade, I would like to believe that having each and everyone of you in my life was just like a school experience to learn from

9.My Colleague(s) Peace…He listened to every story that made me lose weight,that made me laugh,that made me mad and all that I ever told and never get judged. Apart from him feeding me junk food he has become a friend at work. And all the male colleagues that are able to make me laugh everyday and appreciate life the likes of Collen Tshepo Thabang Pastor

10.Male Strangers.They really can make me feel special like a Queen calling me beautiful and helping carry those plastic bag until I reach my destination

11.My Grandfathers whom have already passed on I hope you look down back at me and are happy to scream that’s ‘My granddaughter everyone’

12.My Man Leonard. I am grateful  you came into my life for you have changed my world for the best.I will keep on praying God to make you my one and me your only.I have got so much love for this guy

13.My male teachers.had crushes on few,hated others,treated some as father figure,admired and learned from the best. You shaped my life for the better

14.My Man Crush. Everytime they cross my mind am reminded that they have managed to make me feel so stupid and look like a fool in front of people around me…was stupidly in love

15.My Husband to be. Well I don’t know you yet and in this current situation I would like to hope that I have already met you (“you” being Leonard) but if you still out there deep down am wondering to Myself “heeee Madoda”

 

Barack Obama’s speech at Mandela’s Memorial

To Graça Machel and the Mandela family; to President Zuma and members of the government; to heads of state and government, past and present; distinguished guests – it is a singular honor to be with you today, to celebrate a life unlike any other. To the people of South Africa – people of every race and walk of life – the world thanks you for sharing Nelson Mandela with us. His struggle was your struggle. His triumph was your triumph. Your dignity and hope found expression in his life, and your freedom, your democracy is his cherished legacy.

It is hard to eulogize any man – to capture in words not just the facts and the dates that make a life, but the essential truth of a person – their private joys and sorrows; the quiet moments and unique qualities that illuminate someone’s soul. How much harder to do so for a giant of history, who moved a nation toward justice, and in the process moved billions around the world.

Born during World War I, far from the corridors of power, a boy raised herding cattle and tutored by elders of his Thembu tribe – Madiba would emerge as the last great liberator of the 20th century. Like Gandhi, he would lead a resistance movement – a movement that at its start held little prospect of success. Like King, he would give potent voice to the claims of the oppressed, and the moral necessity of racial justice. He would endure a brutal imprisonment that began in the time of Kennedy and Khrushchev, and reached the final days of the Cold War. Emerging from prison, without force of arms, he would – like Lincoln – hold his country together when it threatened to break apart. Like America’s founding fathers, he would erect a constitutional order to preserve freedom for future generations – a commitment to democracy and rule of law ratified not only by his election, but by his willingness to step down from power.

Given the sweep of his life, and the adoration that he so rightly earned, it is tempting then to remember Nelson Mandela as an icon, smiling and serene, detached from the tawdry affairs of lesser men. But Madiba himself strongly resisted such a lifeless portrait. Instead, he insisted on sharing with us his doubts and fears; his miscalculations along with his victories. “I’m not a saint,” he said, “unless you think of a saint as a sinner who keeps on trying.”

It was precisely because he could admit to imperfection – because he could be so full of good humor, even mischief, despite the heavy burdens he carried – that we loved him so. He was not a bust made of marble; he was a man of flesh and blood – a son and husband, a father and a friend. That is why we learned so much from him; that is why we can learn from him still. For nothing he achieved was inevitable. In the arc of his life, we see a man who earned his place in history through struggle and shrewdness; persistence and faith. He tells us what’s possible not just in the pages of dusty history books, but in our own lives as well.

Mandela showed us the power of action; of taking risks on behalf of our ideals. Perhaps Madiba was right that he inherited, “a proud rebelliousness, a stubborn sense of fairness” from his father. Certainly he shared with millions of black and colored South Africans the anger born of, “a thousand slights, a thousand indignities, a thousand unremembered moments…a desire to fight the system that imprisoned my people.”

But like other early giants of the ANC – the Sisulus and Tambos – Madiba disciplined his anger; and channeled his desire to fight into organization, and platforms, and strategies for action, so men and women could stand-up for their dignity. Moreover, he accepted the consequences of his actions, knowing that standing up to powerful interests and injustice carries a price. “I have fought against white domination and I have fought against black domination,” he said at his 1964 trial. “I’ve cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons live together in harmony and with equal opportunities. It is an ideal which I hope to live for and to achieve. But if needs be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die.”

Mandela taught us the power of action, but also ideas; the importance of reason and arguments; the need to study not only those you agree with, but those who you don’t. He understood that ideas cannot be contained by prison walls, or extinguished by a sniper’s bullet. He turned his trial into an indictment of apartheid because of his eloquence and passion, but also his training as an advocate. He used decades in prison to sharpen his arguments, but also to spread his thirst for knowledge to others in the movement. And he learned the language and customs of his oppressor so that one day he might better convey to them how their own freedom depended upon his.

Mandela demonstrated that action and ideas are not enough; no matter how right, they must be chiseled into laws and institutions. He was practical, testing his beliefs against the hard surface of circumstance and history. On core principles he was unyielding, which is why he could rebuff offers of conditional release, reminding the Apartheid regime that, “prisoners cannot enter into contracts.” But as he showed in painstaking negotiations to transfer power and draft new laws, he was not afraid to compromise for the sake of a larger goal. And because he was not only a leader of a movement, but a skillful politician, the Constitution that emerged was worthy of this multiracial democracy; true to his vision of laws that protect minority as well as majority rights, and the precious freedoms of every South African.

Finally, Mandela understood the ties that bind the human spirit. There is a word in South Africa- Ubuntu – that describes his greatest gift: his recognition that we are all bound together in ways that can be invisible to the eye; that there is a oneness to humanity; that we achieve ourselves by sharing ourselves with others, and caring for those around us. We can never know how much of this was innate in him, or how much of was shaped and burnished in a dark, solitary cell. But we remember the gestures, large and small – introducing his jailors as honored guests at his inauguration; taking the pitch in a Springbok uniform; turning his family’s heartbreak into a call to confront HIV/AIDS – that revealed the depth of his empathy and understanding. He not only embodied Ubuntu; he taught millions to find that truth within themselves. It took a man like Madiba to free not just the prisoner, but the jailor as well; to show that you must trust others so that they may trust you; to teach that reconciliation is not a matter of ignoring a cruel past, but a means of confronting it with inclusion, generosity and truth. He changed laws, but also hearts.

For the people of South Africa, for those he inspired around the globe – Madiba’s passing is rightly a time of mourning, and a time to celebrate his heroic life. But I believe it should also prompt in each of us a time for self-reflection. With honesty, regardless of our station or circumstance, we must ask: how well have I applied his lessons in my own life?

It is a question I ask myself – as a man and as a President. We know that like South Africa, the United States had to overcome centuries of racial subjugation. As was true here, it took the sacrifice of countless people – known and unknown – to see the dawn of a new day. Michelle and I are the beneficiaries of that struggle. But in America and South Africa, and countries around the globe, we cannot allow our progress to cloud the fact that our work is not done. The struggles that follow the victory of formal equality and universal franchise may not be as filled with drama and moral clarity as those that came before, but they are no less important. For around the world today, we still see children suffering from hunger, and disease; run-down schools, and few prospects for the future. Around the world today, men and women are still imprisoned for their political beliefs; and are still persecuted for what they look like, or how they worship, or who they love.

We, too, must act on behalf of justice. We, too, must act on behalf of peace. There are too many of us who happily embrace Madiba’s legacy of racial reconciliation, but passionately resist even modest reforms that would challenge chronic poverty and growing inequality. There are too many leaders who claim solidarity with Madiba’s struggle for freedom, but do not tolerate dissent from their own people. And there are too many of us who stand on the sidelines, comfortable in complacency or cynicism when our voices must be heard.

The questions we face today – how to promote equality and justice; to uphold freedom and human rights; to end conflict and sectarian war – do not have easy answers. But there were no easy answers in front of that child in Qunu. Nelson Mandela reminds us that it always seems impossible until it is done. South Africa shows us that is true. South Africa shows us we can change. We can choose to live in a world defined not by our differences, but by our common hopes. We can choose a world defined not by conflict, but by peace and justice and opportunity.

We will never see the likes of Nelson Mandela again. But let me say to the young people of Africa, and young people around the world – you can make his life’s work your own. Over thirty years ago, while still a student, I learned of Mandela and the struggles in this land. It stirred something in me. It woke me up to my responsibilities – to others, and to myself – and set me on an improbable journey that finds me here today. And while I will always fall short of Madiba’s example, he makes me want to be better. He speaks to what is best inside us. After this great liberator is laid to rest; when we have returned to our cities and villages, and rejoined our daily routines, let us search then for his strength – for his largeness of spirit – somewhere inside ourselves. And when the night grows dark, when injustice weighs heavy on our hearts, or our best laid plans seem beyond our reach – think of Madiba, and the words that brought him comfort within the four walls of a cell:

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul.

What a great soul it was. We will miss him deeply. May God bless the memory of Nelson Mandela. May God bless the people of South Africa.

The best gift a father can give to his children

I mean really now…if after reading this you feel like shooting me I am giving you the go ahead to do so Mara just don’t kill me NEH

There’s a saying going around “the best gift a father can give to his children is to love their mother” and Am like has it thought of shit happens after a weekend filled with sexy ladies handsome guys booze (mind you lots of it) add loud house music (that’s like cherry on top).
Weekend>>>>>>>>>Monday

Now you all alone starring up the roof trying to fill in the blanks of what had happened between the time you got at the party and the time you woke up naked next a total stranger with your arms wrapped around her waist(thank God she isn’t one of your uncles daughter but still who is she?)
Monday>>>>>>3 weeks

While you busy trying to stay indoors every weekend to avoid repeating another tsunami hit. BANG here she is again and luckily not naked this time and you wondering what’s she doing here because we agreed since we can’t fill in the blanks we gonna live it like that as a one night stand to never happen again.
And she goes like I know but that’s not why ek is hierso, I am here because soon you are going to be daddy I missed my period and I confirmed it with the doctor this morning (yoo ke disaster eh)
How did a good weekend filled with so much joy and fun turn up into beautiful misery…..
Now you trying to consume the news that soon a daddy you will be then you pump into this words “the best gift a father can give to his kid is to love her/his mom” (God he doesn’t even know the girl except that she is…whatever her name is)

So here I am thinking the very best gift you can give to your child as a father is to be there every step of the way and if you decide to fall in love with the mother I am still here thinking that should be a bonus gift to the child

NB : shit will always happen in life that’s why we find ourselves doing things that we never thought we would do in a million years to come. (like sleeping with a stranger un-aware)
no matter how hard we think before we act somewhere somehow we just let it go and go with the flow forgetting to watch our back our sides and where we going not knowing what’s behind or if the road still continues or if there’s a curve up there and bang the next thing we find ourselves on the other side of the road that’s filled with broken glasses, so yeah that’s life and that’s how it is (don’t argue with it just live it and see where it takes you)

Loving the Lie (taken ko facebook)

Dating the Lie. Sleeping with the Lie. Married to the Lie. Finding comfort and contentment in the Lie.I met a man recently who was dating several women. All of these women were thinking that they were the only one. Never having asked the question. I asked him “why the deception” ? His answer “Lies Work”
You see we would rather not know than be confronted with our own desperation. If you ask the man that you JUST met if he is sleeping with anyone, then you have to deal with the consequences of your decision. Continuing to date him is “settling” NOT continuing to date him is “a gamble” because he may be the ONE. The reality of the TRUTH is that MOST men that you meet are having sex with someone, but you LOVE the Lie of exclusivity. So you don’t ask. Asking means deciding. Asking puts you in the position of the REALITY of how we date. Transitioning from penis to penis and vagina to vagina. BUT you would rather NOT know. You justify not asking. The dance of the lie begins.
Married women. Loving the Lie. They would rather love a lie than deal with the reality of a dysfunctional marriage that “works”. As long as he comes home and pays the bills. We turn our heads and call it “trust” somehow “knowing” but embracing the comfort of the LIE of fake monogamy. Lies Work. This kicks in around year 10. Too much to lose to have to choose. We accept a piece of a husband, as long as we have the “good parts” and she gets the leftovers. As long he doesn’t “love her”. As long as its only sex. Loving the lie of “its only sex”. Sex IS the oneness. Why does GOD permit divorce in the case of adultery ? Adultery breaks the covenant. Loving the Lie. We are AFRAID to hold men accountable OR accept them for who they ARE and leave if its not the marriage that we desire. So, we LOVE the LIE.
We want him to say “I Love You'” so he says “I Love you “. We believe the LIE of his words while ignoring the Truth of his actions. You see the truth is “complicated”. A lie keeps it simple. We love the lie. Yes he wants two women but YOU prefer he creep and sneak, to feed your false security. You see when he tells you that he wants two women, the truth snatches off the comfort of the LIE that you love.
Why do men cheat? Men cheat because we LOVE the LIE. We accept the LIE. We don’t allow them to be HONEST with their desires or intentions. They pretend to get sex, we pretend to get love. The dance of lies, until the MUSIC stops.Its a relationship, but we are not married so he sneaks and creeps, we snoop and search. Cat and mouse is the game of lies. We love lie, then play “I Spy”.
Honest relationships require the acceptance of the TRUTH. No he doesn’t believe in monogamy, NO he’s not ready to settle down. YES he’s interested in you but currently sleeping with somebody else.
YOU CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH! IN THE WORDS OF JACK NICHOLSON. BECAUSE YOU LOVE THE LIE.
You see the truth would require some SERIOUS standards to kick in, some serious soul searching or some uncomfortable compromise. Some lonely nights, waiting on GOD or accepting a man operating under the guidance of the Father of Lies.
So what’s it going to be ? Uncomfortable Truth or Comfortable Lies?

Facts about life by Pitso Matlala

LETS TALK LIFE…I AM NOT going to pull back punches NTLOG­ELE KE BOLELE NNETE ga tee mo ngwageng

Life e tough ere nna ke go botje,its not always mo eleng gore things will be easy nd its nt evryone who easly bcmes succesful!

Life e tla go tshwara ka diwashin,ya go kgeilela dijockey,ya go tjeela batswadi wa fetoga chiwana,wa hlalwa ke gf…life e tla go tjeyela your only parent,your support base,your pillar of strength..ene ere ke go botje ur relatives during da funeral will b nice nd caring..ere poloko e fete…youl b on your own,evryone will b minding their business…o tlo hlagelelwa,wa robala on an empty stomach….youd­ b expctd to do well at school…eh di tla bowa akere…

Life e tla go dira o be unemployed,o hloke,o hloke le chelete ya bus ya go ya go maketa Zebediela bricks..o hlape ka OMO mmele le meno,o hloke le ya go reka atleast Achaar ya R3 ga mzala(ga Sam)I still remember when i was unemployed,peop­le will throw INSULTS at me,o chaba go maketa,o ja chelete ya Tigers…o nyaka mmereko ka pampiri…somet­imes I would take dis insults to my heart..mara deep down,I knew ne ke apply,ke sa kgethi mshomo…ke tseba gore chelete ya team e dula kae le ka letsogo ke sa e touch ,I WOULD STILL GO OUT THERE nd face people afta dis insults…ka smile nd standing firm..ere ke go botje,those people 2day ge ba mpona ba khuta..in a nutshell,ke re go wena o sa bereki..dnt gv UP,ba tlo bolela bare o chaba mmereko,as if nkile ba go nyakela mmereko wa o gana,as if nkile ba go rekela di fast mail gore o apply…sa gago ke gore,REMAIN HUMBLE,SEEK INFO,SPOT OPPORTUNITIES..­.Akere gore wa maketa ao tlo tsamaya o eya go bo mmago motho ore wa maketa?do it your own way,GOD IS WATCHING YOU ND MAITAPISHO A GAGO ND OTLA FETOLA KA NAKO YA GAGWE!

Ere nna ke go botje,tough times di gona nd di hlagele evn the best…look at a boxing champion,da maan o tla bethwa,a nchwa di blue eye,atjwa madi,bt afta dat fight,he will b a champion..le wena di tla bowa,o tla hlagelelwa ke dieta o humane o rokile dipump,o sene le pads,gape ge pads e sego,ponds yona?Gals wil nt look at you,akere wena o chaba mmereko na…bt ska wara,tje di tlo feta…TOUGH TIMES DONT LAST,ONLY TOUGH PEOPLE LAST..Ask me,I HV BEEN THERE,Mrena,aus­i wee,tsena skolo,pass dt matric…life ga ene dishort cuts ene e tla go Nyes*#..ge ele gare e go Nyes*#,wena keep fighting,dnt gve up…gona ke mang arileng life e tlo go phophola marago?ya go finger?ya go muff?

The Khensinator

One night stand

I am sure there’s a always a story to tell when coming to all the one night stand,if you don’t then I am assuming gore you never had one (mind you am not saying i had one) and you are probably wondering what are those stories akere? I will tell you some of the stories because if azanka waba le one night stand you will never know them all

You must bear in mind gore 98% yadi one night stand was never on the agenda of to do list ya letsatsi (well that’s according to my knowledge) so when it happens that “it” happened to be on your done list of ur day/night that’s where the stories come in

Now you all alone and everthing is coming back to you,well not all of them.you must also bear in mind gore when one night stand occurs your mind stops functioning for that moment and when the mind comes back to reality wishing everything was just a dream. one of the story may be You didn’t play safe…(DAMN ya nxali ikathazo madoda)
While the other party is thinking it may fall pregnant after a so not planned night (lucky for them someone out there created morning after pill even though it got me wondering if really ya bereka naa) the other party lets make both parties are thinking what if the other party Ena le some in-currable disease!!! yoo gape this is disaster in making but then again I guess that’s the package you get after a so not safe one night stand. (ke impilo boss)

In other cases of one night stand the story may be you happen to be having it with your china’s china (ur friend’s lover) YOO just imagine waking up nxt to him/her,naked nogaal (hehee one night stand are disasters ncwi struu).Question is how are you going to look at him/her when your senses come together? (Some people don’t mind xem to them shit happens and it has happened in this case and life doesn’t stop for that shit it goes on so there’s no need to make your life a misery cause of a friend’s lover)

Still in case of a china’s china and in this case your friend finds both naked in bed…(oh Jesus) I mean really what are you going to say? that you can explain? What’s there to explain? That is not what it looks like? (You both naked and you expect me to buy your story of is not what it looks like) if it looks differently How? (guess that’s where you go like eh eh, you see….daaa you still want me to look at it differently?) Recall : it was not on your to-do list and now that is on your done list you have a friend to run after and try to explain why you were naked with his/her lover,then explain that’s if you catch her and you still have yourself to hate for not thinking straight when you had the chance to do so. (just don’t forget to hate one night stand too

share yours told or (and) experienced

life is not complicated we just make it complicated

Lets be honest here A man was going for a trip and his wife helped him packing his clothes. When he was abt to leave his wife handed him a box of CONDOMS and said. ”honey take this in case of temptations” With a broad smile he said ”thnx honey u a the best”. When he got into his car his wife came running,”honey give me<b some, Who knows i might also be tempted” If u were the man, wat would u do?

Itumeleng Nkweti Madisha :
Lmao, ake saya felo

Mduduzi Xray Shabangu
I will gv her condoms wt a strong warning,dat if she be tempted she must consider herself divorced

Khensane Manthosi
Bongs don’t change de story here u accepted de condoms nd she runs afta u to hev some I repeat otlo dirang

Ituza wat if its important u hev to go

Hahahahaa X ray u not being fair mara

Itumeleng Nkweti Madisha
Khens, I’ll give all those condoms and tell her I don’t really need em. She must keep em, I tell her if I find out that she got tempted, she must consider herself a divorced

Khensane Manthosi
Now u not being fair Ituza wena le X ray u took de condoms nd said ur wyf is de best y don’t u too b a good husband nd be de best
Nd give ur wyf half de packet

Itumeleng Nkweti Madisha
Khens, I take em not to use em, just to get em off her hands, if she needs em I give her, but if I find out that there was some hanky pancky, its ova

Khensane Manthosi
Heheheee yaa neh okay I2za hw r u going to find out gore hanky pancky happened nd wat if it dis hanky pancky doesn’t happen ko gae happens at ur trip

Mpho Thomas Ndlovu
Dis 1 e tough,,ill tell her to sleep with our children so that she won’t grab any chance

Itumeleng Nkweti Madisha
I knw it ain’t happening at my trip. As to how I’ll find out, a man has his ways plus I think every man must knw his wife to an extend that he knws wen she’s lying

Mpho Thomas Ndlovu
If am goin to be away for some several days just call ur sistr to come and stay with her for that tym wile u gone

Khensane Manthosi
Nd m thinkin de reason ur wyf gave u dose condoms mite b dat she knws u very well nd her running back to u wantin half of dem wil determine hw well u knw her nd its obvius u neva expected dis 4rm her maybe she just wana c hw u wil react

Mpho otlo tseba bjang gore vele ka nnete ketla robala le bana

Itumeleng Nkweti Madisha
Lmao, mayb I also just wanna see how she reacts wen I take em

Khensane Manthosi
Mpho security or no security, temptations ke di temptations dey happen u knw

Mpho Thomas Ndlovu
Nut realy it’ll depend on how u no ur wife,,if ona le Histry ya go rata banna tumuch so u must take her actions seriously or else,,,

Khensane Manthosi
Hahahaaa yaa neh tsunami etseni ka lapeng I2za nd u didn’t c it comin

Look at de bride side of it u wil all b playin safe out there

Mpho Thomas Ndlovu
Worse part idont no gore hu wilb taking ur place wile u gone,,and wat kind an wat for,,if that guy o handsome than iam,and wen I pitch in wil find gore she’s no longer the same,C othoma gotla ka di style tsa gose fele yoh,,,

Khensane Manthosi
So Mpho b glad o kgopetse half of de pack unlike gore wena oye trip hev temptations den play safe mola yena a dira collection of illness weather u knw her or not lyk she said in case of temptations

Khensane Manthosi
Mpho in dat case ya “,,if that guy o handsome than iam,and wen I pitch in wil find gore she’s no longer the same,C othoma gotla ka di style tsa gose fele yoh,,,” den wena ka bo wena u just hev to upgrade ur game

Mpho Thomas Ndlovu
Hahahahaha,,aowa kent wat ke ma nigeria so uC,,

Tommy Ledwaba
I would give her sum.

Khensane Manthosi
Oh Really Tommy!!! Is lyj u sayin temptations or not just play safe I wil do de same

If It happens gore wena at ur trip temptations doesn’t happen wuld u sleep ka peace knowing gore they r chances dat ur wyf is getin screwed nd u all alone here

Tommy Ledwaba
If my wife knew gore she will be tempted and act on those temptations, she wouldnt have ask for sum CONDOMS from me, bt adawise she wld hv buy them for herself without me knowing. Nd for her to give me CONDOMS it ws a way of her saying dnt u dare get tempted wherever u r going. Do you think if i cum bak without those condoms she gave me she will be HAPPY, nd do u thnk if i cum bak nd found out those CONDOMS kemo ngwathetjeng tjona are not there, will i be HAPPY? Dnt think so.

Mahesu Tebogo
I won’t mind 2 share temptation is der n virus…

Khensane Manthosi
So di condom tse u take dem but neva use dem nd if eva gona le di temptations u play unsafe or u go nd buy another pack? Wat if de pack u bought eshetsi nd u go home with more condoms nd wyf realises dat

Khensane Manthosi
Tebza hw wil u feel wen ur husband gets back nd di condoms di fedile nd tsa gago di sale gona

Mahesu Tebogo
Beta cauz he use dem!! *hiding*

Khensane Manthosi
Onale pelo Gal nna yaka eka ema 4 few minutes den ge ebowa back to reality I wil slap myself 4 giving him dose condoms

Mahesu Tebogo
U’ll kill urself 4not facing reality whn u r sick!!!

Tommy Ledwaba
CONDOM or no CONDOM if u lyk playing UNSAFE u will always play UNSAFE. There is no quarantee gore if those temptations occur btwn both us we will use those condoms.

Khensane Manthosi
Let’s say u lyk playin unsafe aren’t u going to feel guilty 4 not using dose condoms ur wyf gave afta playin unsafe

Tommy Ledwaba
I dnt thnk gore u can feel GUILTY for playing UNSAFE, bcus u were not dng dt on GUNPOINT. Despite, what she doznt knw wont hurt here,nd who knws gore le yena she will be using dem if maybe those temptations occur. M not saying dey shld both play SAFE, all m saying is dt givng sum1 CONDOMS doesnt guarantee gore he/she will be using dem.

Khensane Manthosi
Its lyk “hev fun skat nd don’t worry abut me”

Shirley Dcza Madisha
Helo fwnds…hw u all doin hot topic…Khensi…i feel gore dis women doz not trust her hubby wa mo tsebela ene le yena….o worse ka go kgopela di condom gora gore le yena ke slat klaar…dis women yena self wa itshwarisha gora gore le yena ke tikiline nje

Mahesu Tebogo
Aowa bathong gape re bolela ka temptation e seng ka gore monna goba mosadi kgeke!!

Khensane Manthosi
Sesi Sam don’t u think dis wyf is a carin wyf just lyk his husband said “she is de best” maybe ge afa dis guy di condoms den afetse a nyake half o moncha gore ska wara much ka nna just lyk I take care of u I wil also take care of myself or maybe she just wanna let her husband knw gore I knw u doing it I just wana knw hw u wuld feel if vele I ws getin screwed by amanye madoda

Shirley Dcza Madisha
Khensi o mosadi ene di sign tsa go boulelwa mo mosading wa di tseba ge mosadi a shala a mofa tjona o tlago a kwele se ase kweleng…o lapile shetse ano mmotja ka di tiele gore watseba gore go diragalang…ga a mo tshephe period…ene ye ke setlaela ka go kgopela half back ka gore bann hav dea own of thinkin even though ba ka se go botse same tym mara ge sekaku se tlo phulega go tlo nkga go le rotten…am telling u

Khensane Manthosi
Well once u accept dis condoms nd say m de best wyf eva pls return de favour nd be de best husband nd compliment me wen I ask 4 half

Y didn’t anything cross ur mind afta ke gofa di condoms instead I got compliments so y go swanetsi gobe le a rotten smell gosa bola selo
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Shirley Dcza Madisha
He is being sacastic n sayin dat to spite u….man has different ways of reacting to such situation n unlike women dey don like causing scenes
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Khensane Manthosi
I quote “with a broad smile he said thanx hun u r de best” unless of course he saw dis condoms b4 I gave him nd he is thinkin m thinkin he saw dem

Shirley Dcza Madisha
de r so many ways to react wen u shock or wen sumting unexpected hapens..sum wil show smile so wil show anger sume frustrations etc…in dis case dis man smiles knowing verywell dat dis is sumting he cnt deny he has bin caught out

Khensane Manthosi
Le ge bare wa actor mara Nkosi ye yona in 5 yrs of marriage I am alwys packing 4 him nd I don’t give him condoms nd all of sudden BANG honey take dis in case of temptations nd s my hubby wa trya go reacta s if vele ur wyf is an angel nd den compliments follow!!!

M thinkin gore dis man is alwys doing dis things dat she is 4getin gore kana my wyf doesn’t knw nd wen a mofa di condom de idea ya gore kana she doesn’t knw or he suspect dat she mite knw doesn’t cross his mind ebile ono mo complinenta s if ke work coleque nd den u come back to reality afta she too ask 4 half of de pack

Thanx be to I2za Mpho Tommy nd Shirley

Khensinator

A THING CALLED LIFE

Ke lefaseng hierso and shit happens
Sometimes liewe forces us to do things that we don’t wanna do
I know you are probably saying “you always have a choice” yeah you always have a choice that I agree that’s y we always doing things that we don’t wanna do and for what???

WOW sometimes I wonder how this thing called life operates!!! I mean really
You do the wrong things BANG all goes well but just dare do things the right way everything becomes a mess that is unfixable unless you will be doing the wrong thing when fixing it
I often wonder if ever really the right thing is the right thing and the wrong thing is really the wrong thing!!!
I am thinking there was an error naming the right thing nd wrong thing
There is a saying that says “what goes around comes back around” I don’t know if you have noticed but when you do the wrong things yeah they do come back around but after a long time when you have forgotten about them and those that they call the right thing before one could even forget about them they are already back around and yet they say they are the right things

I guess ke liewe maybe it was meant to be that way
How I wish people could see that “life was meant to be not understood”
And stop looking at each other with that look that says “ngi zwile indaba zakho” “tsa gago ke a ditseba”

And have one realised that people has this thing of looking at one with disgust and says “o ikira lengeloi nyana while a dira ntho tse mpe out there” ???
I believe that we all Angels but we can’t be Angels in everything that happens in life
How I wish I didn’t care what others says but that is impossible because kaa sepedi bare “motho ke motho ka batho” if I ignore what they say how am I going to be “motho ka batho” because ke tlaba ke sa kgathale ka seo ba se buwang?

…………..

Khensinator

Sex Education

Today’s topic

sex education may b a good idea in schools

Qtion is do u think children shuld b given homeworks abut de thingz they were taught??

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David Nkhulu Letsoalo
Yes khensi dey mst get hmewrks 2 c gore ba andastanda seo ba se rutilwego

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Koos Kobus Steenkamp
ene ke nagana gore e kaba bonolo ge mistres le mnr ba ka bontsha barutwana gore go dirwa bjang

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Khensane Manthosi
David by homework i meant shuld they pratice sex for xample if they were taught ka 3sum shuld they b given a homework 2 do 3sum Wen they get home????

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Khensane Manthosi
lol Koos

again Koos lets ke ngwana wa gago den ge a boa skolong le his/her frend ba fihle ba hev sex den o ba kgwetse b4 u culd burst in anger ba go botse gore we r doing homework dad n den continue ba go tlogele hw wuld u feel?????

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Tommy Ledwaba
I thnk it can be a very gud idea,nd jst mayb it can reduce da high rate of teenage pregnancies. @Khensi – i dnt thnk gore by sex education u really hv to teach ppl abt 3sums,nd al those ish, i think dey shld only stick wit basics,nd da most importnt aspects of sex. (like hw to protect demslves…etc).

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Joshua Madisha
Yes khensani. Is very gut idea must knw obout this

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
mng ya’ll..Khensi de ealier de beta…dis prevents dem from pregncy,std’s. Homework 2 practise i don tink but homework to discuss wit parents at home yes.However sum kids are lil explorers ke bo Thomas makgolwa ka go bona. My 12 yr old is given lessons at school abt sex education n dis ada day she told mommy i don want to hav sex wen i grow.so i tink its a briliant idea.

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Khensane Manthosi
lol DCZA a brilliant idea

Tommy 3sum ws just n e.g

take into a/c dat dis kids watch tv( they c ppl havin sex) den they r being taught abut dont u think they wil attempt to try n hev it????

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Tommy Ledwaba
@Khens – got dt dear. I thnk da main purpose of SEX EDUCATIONS shld be not to encourage hvng sex,bt to educate abt it. Yes we al knw dt it is out of hand nw,nd nthng we can do to stop dem, bt surely we can try,nd b shwn da danger dt cums wit it.

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
@Khesi as a parent u set rules,becum ur child’s best friend earn her trust n she/he will earn ur trust.Make her/him b comfi taking abt anyting wit u n dis ya gore ore go ngwana ke bone fela le mosimane goba ngwanya ke bolaile has 2 stop dats wen dey wil do dat just to c wat happens.all u can do as parent is teach and guide but u cn neva be dea police.u spend 80% of ur life at work dey at school u don no wat dey up afta school.so knowledge is power feed dem de education dats de least u can do.@Tommy I agree not to encourage but to educated them dat shud 1 day dey decide to cross de line dey no hw to protect themselves.@Joe like i said o ka se ba monitor waba fetsa de best is to give dem as much edctn as possible n luv den unconditional.remeba we were also young n used to drive our parents mad.only because we were to scared to discuss issue n ting wit dem(twz very strict in doz days)o be o ka sebolele le mmago ka tjona tjeo.be open wit ur kids dats all am sayin.n dat child wat di condom gare ga b2 o nyaka morwetla tlaar ga a hlomphe..

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
yes dey are but u nid to teach dem basic rules of respect….oska hwetja ngwana a go ahlametje ge o dutje o bolela le b2 ba bagolo.dey must go read a book or play.

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
no Joezy…ga se di hlapa cumin 2 tink of it dey my sound as di hlapa but dey not.dats de problem ka rena b2 ba ba golo.ga se ra swanele go fihla such tings from dem

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
hahahahahahahah…….ny….o tla feleletsa

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Tommy Ledwaba
@Dcsa/Joe – no STRONG LANGUAGE please. Yes it is our language, bt u both knw gore geo bitja dilo tjeo it sound not lekker.

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
oooooops sori…….pls delete….kwaaaakakakaka ke Joe Tommy ga se nna….Joe ke tlago diciplina soos nou

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
motsuko….i don no,a kere i said i did not do sepedi at school so i don no….enough ka strong lang

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
ok back 2 topic ya Khensi…i stil tink its gud dis kids no whats rytn wrong

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
kikikikiki*evillaugh*

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Khensane Manthosi
so nw dat education is the key 4 our children safety 4rm STDs n pregnancy shuld we also tell dem wen they shuld start engaging in sex?????

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
Khensi as a parent of course id tel my child gore sex if for married ppl we u old enough and responsible.but ofcourse kids of today 15 onwards dey tink its de coolest ting.wat u can do as a parent is tel dem the importance of waiting for de ryt time…and agian u can neva police ur kids wa ba kgona.

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Joel Borotho Aphane
y do u want teachers to teach
them while u dnt want to say
penis in sepedi? r the teachers
suposed to teach in english
only?
yes they must be taught abt
thobalano nd le di kgohlopo.

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
my point exactly we Joel..hw u anyway…dey nid 2 no dis words afta all dats wat dey are called mos….@ Joe i found de word(Penis) ka sepedi…lmfao…kwaakakakakaka.i am finished ke disego.tjo now i understant

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Khensane Manthosi
we must also bear in mind gore sex grows in a person there is a stage where ur body feelings change n since u r saying we education is de key n communication s parents if children explains to u those feelingz wuld u advise them to hev sex???? or wuld u still continue wit de story of sex is 4 marrid ppl

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Tommy Ledwaba
@Joel – we not sayng dey shld be taught ka sekgowa,nd yes we dnt want to mention dose things here ka sepedi. We dnt hv any kids here to teach, r we. I mean crsly Koromola, if we start pentioning those ka polelo yabo rena here on ds group on ds wall it wont show maturity at all. And by da way bana ka moka badi tseba ka sepedi, eseng ka sekgowa.

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
luk Khensi hence i say u cn not monitor dem all times but de best advise is if u feel u r ready n want please use protection n if a gal u might just wnt to go take ur child ko lapa planing(clinic) go hlaba or pilis just 2 protect ur child.

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Joel Borotho Aphane
im gud Babes.
my point is that we hav made sex a monster, we dnt wana talk about it openly, infact we parents shud b the 1 to start teaching the kids at home.
we shud stop puttin the stigma of mahlapa away.
a bag with two potatoes is lesakana le mazambane a mabedi. lets talk our language.
re phala ke batho ba ga sekhukhune, ga ba rogane ba a reta.

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
@ Joe ke sure de r more nicer words to use instead of goin straight to de direct word eg…use nick names like ka moshate refering to (V or P)wat am sayin is speak in our lang but modify de words instead to make dem sound appreciated.@Joel i get ur point 2

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
am learning all of dat don wori

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Khensane Manthosi
DCZA dont u think gore go isha ngwana family planing ke go mosenya problem with us mothers ke gore re tshosha ke pregnancy nt malwetsi immediately o isha ngwana family planing it means u r tellin ur gal something else skolong ba morutile ka those thingz n surely de best protection they recommended @ school was 4 dem to use condomz

Borotho ba poto ge o gola surely ba go boditse ebile bago rutile gore dilo tseo ke mahlapa dats y even today u dont use those words ge o bolela le ba2 ebile ge mo2 aka bitsa 1 of those words o mo makalela ebile omosola
wat i want to understand here Bread is do u really want our children to use those words if so since bona ba sa tsebe e le mahlapa ba tlo shomisha dis kind of words onale le bo Tommy le bo Joe hw r u going to feel

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
Khensi FP is not go senya ngwana u r protectin dem.Surely ba baruta to use protection CD but is dat 100% safe? no rather babe safer n use both. Gotsw nganeng weda oa abstaina or experimenta wena motswadi o tlabe o lekile ka mo o ka kgonang.n wena since ore FP ya ba senya in wat way?

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Khensane Manthosi
senya nt in dat way wat m trying to say here is FP e preventative pregnancy nt mawetsi n in evry sex education we hev to teach de kids to ply sfe all m saying is practice wat u preach

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Shirley Dcza Madisha
i c yes even if u ya FP u stil need 2 use CD

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